This time next week I’ll be on holiday (yippie!), fast forward 3 weeks & I’ll be 30 (dun dun dun!) It seems like mere moments ago I was at school turning the grand old age of 18. A birthday filled with excitement, joy (and also a full sized cardboard cutout of Jonny Wilkinson) but also tinged with the start of those ‘your old now’ comments & cards. Since that point, each annual celebration comes with a generous helping of those reminders of being even older, delightful aye?
You see when it comes to these big milestone celebrations it can be daunting, especially when it’s time to say goodbye to your 20’s. That once carefree life suddenly seems to be slipping away with a future of responsibility lined up ready to take it’s place. Alongside that, you also find yourself surrounded by timelines packed full of weddings, babies & new homes. It can be easy to fall into the trap of feeling that you too should be on the same path, achieving these ‘life goals’ before your 30th birthday rings in.
I was one of those kids that was convinced I’d be married, have a family and settled by the grand old age of 23, ah childish dreaming! But what about everything else I’ve achieved? A successful career, my own home, surely those things deserve a resounding pat on the back as well? You see I’ve actually been excited to turn 30, welcoming with open arms the change in confidence that comes with age. Yes some pesky insecurities can still niggle their way into your mind but on the whole, you do stop worrying about those insignificant problems that tend to grip your day to day thoughts during your teen years.
So for someone who is ambitions, driven & goal orientated, what have I set myself for this new decade I’m about to embark on? Let me bring you in on a little secret, there is only one topic at the forefront of my mind to master and that’s mindfulness. I spent the majority of my 20’s working incredibly hard, always striving for that next big thing, never giving myself to chance to sit back & just chill. My brain & thoughts are consistently going a mile a minute, ‘it’s just who I am I tell myself’ but what if that can be changed?
In recent weeks I’ve started using the Headspace app, widely recommended to help make meditation simple. I want to be more present, step away from my ‘to-do lists’ and instead embrace a more mindful pace. I remember a time where a holiday literally meant no Internet, perhaps an hour or two on the hotel lobby computer if you were lucky but you switched off as you simply had to. Now you can be scrolling through all your social media accounts whilst sat by the pool drinking a pina colada, great right? But when do you get a break? When does it stop? My 30’s for me are about embracing a new pace, stepping away from that daily ‘gotta keep up mind set’ and being thankful for all that I have achieved.
Bring on the 30’s, who knows what the next 10 years will bring but I’m pretty excited to find out!