How to Not Let Other People’s Success Make You Quit

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I wrote this post the other day on the train back from work after seeing a couple of tweets that got my brain whirling. The following is a bit of a brain dump but I hope it provides a spot of clarity in moments when it’s hard to remember all that you’ve achieved.

It can be hard. Working your butt off yet watching other people grab those golden opportunities with what appears like an effortless stance. We all know we shouldn’t compare ourselves to others, it only leaves us feeling disheartened and apologising for our ‘smaller’ success however with others flying past at rocket speed what do you do when you can’t keep up? I’ve always been extremely honest & open with my limits, not being able to invest more hours into my content or social channels naturally leads to slower progression however I’m still able to interact with amazing people who appreciate the content I do produce.

But what do you do when you feel like everyone is ahead? The opportunities have dried up? Your content isn’t enough anymore. Do you give up? Do you make way for the ‘popular kids’ knowing the chances of you ever being one of them is slim to none? Heck no! Don’t let other people’s success determine yours. Just because someone is being flashy and promoting their new designer purchase or free holiday doesn’t mean they are sitting on a golden thrown of happiness & success.  Everyone has different goals. Just because one person is getting married whilst buying their first family home doesn’t stop them from getting jealous of the single friend who has the luxury of spending their money on a whirlwind holiday. People in glass houses, grass being greener and all those classic sayings that still reign true.

Success should be measured on your own personal happiness. Are you happy with the content you produce knowing the time you have available each week? Are you happy with your job, career, circle of friends? Just because someone projects that perfect lifestyle doesn’t mean there aren’t struggles hidden underneath. Do you actually know what they’ve sacrificed to be there? With thousands of successful people now more accessible then ever thanks so social media it’s easy to see a handful of girls living life better than you. In those moments just remember what you’ve achieved. What really are your goals and what is it you want from life. Yes it would be nice to parade around with a golden tan, designer clothes & a editor boyfriend on our arms but life is so much more. Don’t let the glossy pictures throw you off and remember every day you are working to better yourself is a day you get a big fat golden star.

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  • It all depends on our definition of success, is our success defined by the number of followers we have? is our success based on other people decisions on whether they like us or not? It is hard

    • I totally agree. We shouldn’t let one persons version of success allow us to determine our own xx

  • I agree with Leyre – it’s a lot about perspective and what defines success to us. It can be really frustrating sometimes! It’s good to stay focused on personal goals rather than comparing to others :)
    – Ambar x
    http://www.herlittleloves.blogspot.com

  • This is so important and I tend to forget about it too many times. It came just in the right time, thanks for writing it!

    http://www.blossomikebana.com

  • This is such an important post. It’s very easy to look at YouTubers and bloggers and see how wonderful their life looks. We just need to remember that of course it looks wonderful – they’re only showing the best bits. Just keep on doing what you’re doing and enjoying it, because if you’re happy and you’re not hurting anyone then it’s worthwhile, even if you don’t have that golden tan, designer clothes or editor boyfriend. ;)

    Hannah | Whoops It’s Hannah

  • Charlotte Johnson

    This is such an incredible post, and something we should all remember – I think especially in the blogging community!
    Thanks for sharing – I know a lot of people who will benefit from reading this!!

    Charlotte xxx

    https://thisbeautylover.wordpress.com/

  • Jazzyfizzle

    Wise words x

  • Sophie

    Your writing and clarity is second to none, you should be an inspirational speaker or something. love this post. I agree, everyone’s dreams are different and judging your life against their’s is not living nor taking advantage of the opportunities that may come your way. Loving your blog and I hope you don’t mind but I will be including a couple of your posts in my weekly favourites which I will be uploading this weekend on my blog.
    Thanks for your insight on this matter, very helpful.
    Sophie
    http://www.itsabeautything.com

    • You know what, I have actually always wanted to be one! I love motivating people and it’s amazing that was something you picked up on! Thank you for including me in your favourites and for your lovely comment :) xx